tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post4250545257232888999..comments2023-10-12T03:40:26.342-04:00Comments on CocktailMom: The labels don't fitCocktailMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02841055819714139122noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-51697745102760210942009-02-18T09:02:00.000-05:002009-02-18T09:02:00.000-05:00Yes Gretchen, pick yourself up, dust yourself off ...Yes Gretchen, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go full steam on educating the teachers, aide or whoever has contact with Logan. Show them what a wonderful, bright child you have. They just need to be educated too. It is all a learning thing and you and Jon have learned a lot. Too bad the rest of the world hasn't followed.<BR/>Love,<BR/>MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-41585954399026570392009-02-17T19:59:00.000-05:002009-02-17T19:59:00.000-05:00Oh, this just sucks. In JAM's first year, we foun...Oh, this just sucks. In JAM's first year, we found out the hard way that no one but his classroom teacher had access to all the info that we had provided about his ADHD diagnosis-- this was pre-504 plan-- and we had to give permission for the music teacher to read it, since he was having issues and no one bothered to tell her about him. This year we had to give permission for his 504 plan to be shared with the other adult who was in the room (as an aide to one particular student, but also solely in charge of all transitions, lunch and recess-- you know, the exact times that a child with self-regulation issues would find the MOST challenging!!), because she clearly had no clue about how to deal with him when he was emotionally charged or having difficulty switching mindsets from one environment to another. I have found that I've had to really spoon-feed the school on best practices for him... and that's just not right. There's definitely a box that they want students to fit into-- and when one doesn't, no one knows what to do. <BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry you got that look-- I've been on the receiving end of that as well, and it is simply heartbreaking.morninglight mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128926711800459894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-85807155837036004872009-02-17T19:54:00.000-05:002009-02-17T19:54:00.000-05:00Thank you all! Your words mean so much to me and ...Thank you all! Your words mean so much to me and on the days that are low moments like this, you all remind me to pick myself up, dust myself off and start fresh. thank you!Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07773787747066488291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-43108043457301786922009-02-17T17:59:00.000-05:002009-02-17T17:59:00.000-05:00Hi Gretchen,I, too, think you are doing a great jo...Hi Gretchen,<BR/>I, too, think you are doing a great job with your kids. It's horrifying not having the support from the schools though. If it's any consolation, my friend Donna in Herndon, has similar issues with her children's teachers, especially those educating her youngest one. What do they learn in those education classes they need for certification? And don't they have the imagination or initiative to read up on what a special needs child placed in their classroom might need.<BR/>My heart goes out to you and Logan.<BR/>AnnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-22249025748666846242009-02-17T14:35:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:35:00.000-05:00Thank you Dani and Jenn. It's nice to have you la...Thank you Dani and Jenn. It's nice to have you ladies in my cheering section.Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07773787747066488291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-35264624357722919872009-02-17T14:34:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:34:00.000-05:00Can't leave a lone note, just know people are ...Can't leave a lone note, just know people are behind you and you have a huge support staff.<BR/>But do do do write a note for mom's and others. You know it is so easy to label and point fingers to things that are unknown and scary. But when a person you know is part of the scary thing the walls come down. As you know most mom's don't mean to be mean and judgemental they just don't understand and don't know how to deal with a different situation. Please be the person who puts the hand out and helps others. I know it suck to be perfect, but show others the way!! :><BR/>Thinking of you and yours,<BR/>Erin<BR/>PS Fiona wrote Zane a V day card. She wants to send it in the mail to him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-12844196134774550952009-02-17T14:08:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:08:00.000-05:00Crikes! You mean I'm not supposed to have my chil...Crikes! You mean I'm not supposed to have my children in my bed with me and I shouldn't have breast fed either one of them, even though both acts show how much I adore and care for my children to give them the best nutrition and most comfort and safety during the scariest times of their lives? Maybe we should all protest and move to Seattle! I've always wanted to see that place anyway.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you got "that look." I know how heart wrenching it can be. But you are one of the best moms I have ever met, and I know that you'll take that look and do something positive with it that will enlighten and touch at least one other person in this world!Danniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17292992792626249485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3899072777227828239.post-62630462936102537792009-02-17T10:57:00.000-05:002009-02-17T10:57:00.000-05:00Yeah... I was there and I saw that face. I'm sorry...Yeah... I was there and I saw that face. I'm sorry. You are right, though. You don't want the label, but you want the sensitivity that the label requires. Frankly, I don't think the schools here value anything that is outside of their neat little, standardized-test-taking box. (I long for the teaching environments I worked in in CA... they were pretty great!)The schools should be responsible for creating that climate. Instead, teachers (and support staff!)are taught to create little machines and unless they have some sensitivity of their own Logan becomes "that" child. You are doing a great job, Gretchen!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10519925071466083222noreply@blogger.com